Isn’t it lovely when…

08 Feb



Oh, isn’t it lovely when you come across a blog you really enjoy?

I AM enjoying ALL the blogs of course, genuinely, but this morning, I have something on my mind. I fired up my lap-top to find a ping-back to a blog that instantly got me hooked – Raven Barks – by the quality of their writing and their commitment to writing.

It got me thinking about the subscriptions I’ve made (about thirty of them), why we make them, and what I’m going to do.

You’ll have to forgive me because I’m feeling this out as I go.

OK.  I’m a new blogger so it’s gone like this:

1. Start the blog I wanted to. For me it was poetry – Tomatos, Oranges & Other Fruit
2. Discover the postaday2011 challenge and sign up
3. Slowly begin to understand that I may have bitten off more than I can chew – Hitting the Wall
4. Comment, comment, comment, subscribe
5. Write this particular post.

In the past month I’ve read a large number of Blogs, Posts, that have ranged from cloud watching to recipes. A large variety of styles, the full range of ideas and people and prose.

I was thinking about truth in COMMENTING and the things that drive me to subscribe…and further, about the expectations of myself that I harbour towards my subscribers.

I try to comment on everything I read, because I like to be commented on, and I understand the effort that it takes to write and publish a post, particularly one everyday.

I began to worry that some of the comments I was making were DIS-INGENUOUS, designed solely, to re-direct the owners to my BLOG, and beef up my stats.

I began to worry about that a lot, especially this past week, and made a conscious effort to ONLY COMMENT on posts I honestly felt I had an opinion about, and FOLLOW only blogs I felt a connection with.

So far, so good you would think. Well no.

I quickly found out, that this also, was a very arbitrary approach. You see, I rapidly found, that the posts I was commenting on and the blogs I was subscribing to, were either very much like my own, or very much like each other.

I was beginning to loose diversity, I was beginning to get bored, even though the ‘quality’ (and how we come to THOSE decisions I find now, also fickle), of the comments and the blogs was improved.

I was becoming more and more concerned with ONLY the quality of my OWN blog and its effects on others and forgetting to really READ what I was finding.


All that out of the window.

You know, you come across some blogs where you instantly go Ugh! Really, there are some people in the air-space that need to be institutionalised; Alcoholics, Depressive’s (some of them suicidal), Relationship Freaks, Schizophrenics. All sorts, honestly.

Stay with me.

We ALL have something up our sleeves.

All of us.


If you’re an alcoholic and loving it, by all means, bring the party! If you are trying to clean up, tell me about it. If you are depressed, maybe I am too. If you are a relationship freak, I will challenge you to ‘set them free.’

If you are a Schizophrenic…well, that one, I don’t know.

I’ve learned that really, it’s up to me to make the call whether or not the situation is genuinely dangerous, or if I’m just afraid because they mirror the secrets I hide.

I’m learning that what looks like a ‘bad quality blog’ is not necessarily so, that I CAN make genuine comments on ALL the posts I read, and that I enjoy this FAR MORE than the selectivity that I attempted.

It just takes a little more time, and a deeper searching of myself, in a more honest way than I appreciated.

Sometimes a blog/post will come up and I’m immediately laughing away, chuckling, snorting, all out on the floor, rolling around, choking on my ‘samwhich.’ Other times, I’m pondering deeply, the issues raised.

Yet others, I’m concerned with the spelling errors, the obvious angst (I hope they have a medical officer near by, Good Lord!), or the fastidiousness (ya, dictionaries you all…you know the type…so extremely intelligent, so meticulously crafted, your head hurts) therein.

Today I came across a blog that, in my eyes, honestly made a connection with how I perceive myself, and I subscribed to it.

I have stumbled upon people I subscribed to that I’m going to un-subscribe because I can’t help them, or because they’re too self-centered, or because they are harmful to the opinion that I nurture, that at the core of all people lies goodness and the search for peace and the need to reach out to others.

Some I’m just going to un-subscribe to because I’m tired of visiting day in and day out and never have them comment, not even once, to what I’m doing.

Those are turning out to be the worst.

There is an AHA! moment HERE.

Many of these are ALSO turning out be the ‘better’ quality ones, the one’s written well, sure of focus with something to say.

We are all here for a reason, however small, however insignificant.

If you can’t be bothered to acknowledge a visit – not all visits from all people at all times, but some visits some of the time by all people, and to do so with kindness AND honesty, then I can’t be bothered to read OR follow you in some vain hope that I am graced, in turn, by a visit or a comment from a construct I have come to admire.

You’re not the only person in the world.


This is not a rant by the way.

This is clearing out my space, an acknowledgment of ALL of you;

The team at postaday2011,
Those who are writing everyday,
Those who are guilt laden over missing a day, or a month, or a year,
Those who are making beautiful pieces and,
Those who are just farting.

I’m farting too.

To everyone; How are you today? How is it going? What are you learning?

See you tomorrow, when I will comment, cancel, follow, delete, hack, burn and slash…then re-consider…all over again, shall again learn that I am NOT the center of the Universe, that others TOO, have things to do, people to become, and that I am honestly thankful to have found WordPress when I did, here in 2011.

Namaste, and on, on!











-visit my poetry blog- Tomatos, Oranges & Other Fruit

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Posted by on February 8, 2011 in postaday2011



7 responses to “Isn’t it lovely when…

  1. Tilly Bud

    February 8, 2011 at 15:03

    An excellent rant!

  2. lightdance

    February 8, 2011 at 17:31

    I feel compelled to respond to this one!

    Once again I’m amazed by your ability, your daily ability!, to take a subject to explore, and to do so entertainingly with words that challenge your reader to explore his/her own thoughts on that subject.

    I’ve gone through the same feelings about reading blogs/stats/ commenting as you describe in the 2-1/2 years since I started my blogs. Leaving a comment that you think adds something new to the conversation is one of the hardest and most time-consuming parts of blogging. You are right that it is truly appreciated by the person who has invested time and thought into a post.

    So….I’m fine. It’s going slowly today because I’m spending so much time writing this comment to you. I’ve learned, however, that it’s worth doing. I already knew that. I just haven’t been doing it as well or as often as I should. You, BTW, write a very nice comment. I hope you feel appreciated.

  3. penpusherpen

    February 8, 2011 at 23:17

    I just post and visit and comment, reading as many as I can and leaving a comment if I feel the urge..(I know urges should be fought against, but this one I enjoy, so I think what the heck!!) … and I’ve subscribed as I’ve gone along, floating about WordPress, (and I love WordPress too now…I was a refugee from WLS ….and wasn’t looking forward at all to leaving and finding new pastures…) …but here I am, enjoying every second/minute/hour um ..days? here…Viva WordPress… Great blog as usual…. Hasta la vista! Auf wiedersehen! Au revoir!!!!

  4. Laura

    February 8, 2011 at 23:52

    LOVE this!

  5. Laura

    February 9, 2011 at 00:16

    …that was a pretty pointless comment actually!…I was gonna blog on this theme and ping back to you but I’m going with something else now it seems!

    I found that when I first started blogging, I would subscribe to anyone and everyone who commented on my blogs, purely out of gratitude…but now I find that half of them never post anything, and some of the ones that do, I find I’m not actually that interested in what they’re posting.

    As for commenting, I’m a pretty rubbish commenter. As hypocritical as it is (because I love when I get comments on my blog), I find that no matter how much I enjoy or connect with a post, clicking the ‘like’ button is the most I do (or writing stupid comments like ‘I LOVE this!”).

    I also spend a LOT more time worrying about my blog and posting there, than I do looking at other people’s blogs. I only ever really read the ones that jump out at me. I guess that’s one side-effect of this post-a-day thing. The time I get to sit in front of the computer and focus my attention on WordPress goes on worrying about and writing my post for the day!

  6. raven

    February 11, 2011 at 06:49

    raven from ravenbarks says thank you for visiting, and linking 🙂

    Must compliment on the rant.. and the special touch of that ‘namaste’ at the end. #ilike (twitter hangover)

    As for the churn, like with most other things in life, it helps here too – some blogs we loved go dormant, others change focus and many others change tone as authors go through changes in their lives. And so, with the change in blogs’ character, it is appropriate that we change our subscription list – nothing wrong with that comment, cancel, follow, delete, hack, burn and slash .. 🙂

    Once again, thanks for visiting and sharing the blog.


  7. shobavish

    February 14, 2011 at 01:32

    I am glad you found me, for that helped me find you! Have enjoyed each of the pieces that I have read so far. This one is special – it has the kind of arm-chair analysis I love and captures much of my own progression with WordPress. Here is to more blogging, commenting, subscribing, liking and deleting!


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