Day forty seven; Have you told someone today, that they’re alright?

17 Apr



I had a strange conversation a few minutes ago.

I wasn’t even paying attention to what I was saying.

I heard myself asking if I was doing alright, if I was doing all I could do, if everything was ok with how I was being.

I was asking for affirmation…and I got it.

Todays meditation was on ‘loving affirmation’.

I pay people compliments whenever I can, but often this is designed to keep me on their ‘good side.’

When I was little, I sent my mum a very nice note (at least, I thought it was nice…) and she told me the next day that ‘…flattery won’t get you anywhere.’

I was so upset, I went upstairs when she was out, found that letter and tore it up.

I still remember it today – one of the few things that I remember.

I knew right then, that I had done wrong. I knew how she would feel at the loss of that innocent, irreplacable, childhood letter, I had been vindivctive and horrid and lashed out in a most severe way at a truth that had been pointed out. And yeah, it’s true.

False affection is as much a lie, perhaps worse, than an outright lie.

I find that telling someone who I do not necessarily like, that they have done something well, or that they look good today, very difficult.

And yet, I notice immediately, when these things would make a difference to someone’s life.

And these simple affirmations do make a difference.

Delivered honestly, and with love, and depite the ‘situation at the moment’ these things allow others a moment of peace, to be themselves and feel ok, feel suitably equiped for the of the moment.

They can make me feel well, when I feel tired.

I’ve sinned a great deal since Easter, and sinned willfully.

The deal is – I wasn’t going to be a Saint forever – it wasn’t part of the deal.

And I receive the gentle affirmation that everything is OK, as long as I’m trying to do my best in every situation, as long as I’m attempting to elevate my thoughts when revenge or hurt is more pleasureful, the subtle reminder that I am not Jesus, and that anyway – what would I know of Sin.

Certain things in my life remain very difficult. There are massive changes taking place – or that SHOULD be taking place that will affect my life and the lives of my family for the rest of the time we are alive.

One of those changes that alters everything, clear as night and day, and the period has been dragging on for so long I’m exhausted.


I carry on, wondering just where I’m finding it, to keep moving, to keep holding on.

Small affirmations.

I see you giving it all you’ve got Kenneth, and you’re being a great help to those around. You are changing lives.

You are growing a garden.


“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: if one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)


Posted by on April 17, 2012 in Uncategorized


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3 responses to “Day forty seven; Have you told someone today, that they’re alright?

  1. Titirangi Storyteller

    April 18, 2012 at 03:54

    Wonderful post. Sorry I haven’t had time to read all of them lately – I’ve been so very very busy. Nice thing about a blog though, one can always go back and catch up on what what one has missed. When one has the time…

    In any case, this is a subject close to my heart and I try to do it often… I don’t think of it so much as complimenting someone, as recognising something good in them. Doing that is good for me because it reminds me that there are good things to be seen in all people, even the worst of us (including me when I am at my worst.) And it is good for them, because they/we need to be seen and recognised, to be seen… and when all things fall into place, it rolls forward.

    Have you ever discussed your letter with your mum? I wonder how that conversation would go… you might be surprised.

    • kolembo

      April 18, 2012 at 21:29

      Hi sweetness!
      I’m on a go slow this year it seems…I can’t seem to write anything outside of myself.
      So, I’m writing about myself furiously and trying to clean it all out!
      I’ve never mentioned that letter to my mum. It’s one of those things – changed everything. The moment stuck. She never called me on fake emotion every again, and I think twice before reacting in anger.
      I love my mum very much. A mothers boy. Ahhhh.
      Hope you doing well – I’ll try by and see what you’ve been up to.

  2. Titirangi Storyteller

    April 19, 2012 at 14:53

    I’d say I’m doing the same old same old, except it’s not, not if you look at it… I have been evolving… better as a photographer and better as an artist and better as a poet. Except lately, I am mostly focused on the photography – but that’s because I bought a small business and am working a bit like mad these days…


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