This morning, I remembered giving advice to some young film-makers, long ago, in a bar.
Never give advice in a bar.
Work strikes me as a tricky place to give advice.
Everyone is there doing jobs they have been hired for.
They go about their business knowing that they are being paid for the work that they are doing.
Film-making is not a co-operative art.
You must have a Director, who’s say is final, but a Director who does not listen, often fails.
When I was younger I had a Producer come in from London to help me on a project.
I didn’t listen, and the relationship was ruined.
On the other hand, I listened to advice from his Director friend, and ended up with a product that didn’t turned out as I wanted.
So, when to give advice and when to take it?
When you’re in a position of responsibility, you must manage the effort of others. The product relies on it, your team relies on it.
Trust that your team is commited to the product and are doing their best.
Ask them questions about how to do an aspect of their job, and then ask how they deal with this or that aspect.
Allow the passage of time.
When you return, thank them for taking the time with you, explain to them what your role in the project is, and then suggest to the changes you were thinking, and why.
Ask that they try for a given length of time and tell them that you would very much like a meeting with them and a few others about whether the changes work afterward.
Stop talking until the meeting.
If time is an issue, call a group meeting before you start.
Come having done some research on the jobs that the people you are working with have been doing.
Explain to them what you are responsible for.
Tell them that you have some changes and ask them for permission to try.
I’m giving advice on how to give advice! How quickly it happens!
Starting with a prayer has always worked.
It’s sticky because you must ask permission and you must have a plan for inclusion if you find that objections are raised.
Payer focusses on why the project is important on several levels.
-On its grander reason
-On the individual reasons that people are on it
-On its desired outcome
I wanted to talk about contentment today.
I learned that contented people have a great deal of power.
There is power to inspire in contentment because there is nothing to loose.
There is freedom.
The sermon at church today was on Pauls advice to the churches in Collossians and Ephesians.
I’ve only now realised that the sermon was on giving advice at work.
Appreciate people. Say your piece.
I notice that Jesus is always giving advice, and pointing people to the authority through which he speaks – God
I understand that many people will reject this.
Tonight I am going to ask him to give me advice on staying and growing in love.
I will listen.